Why We Behave The Way We Do:
The Houle Relationship Approach

Relationships Matter A Lot More Than We Think

For years my fellow psychologists have been telling us that, in order to help a person with social, emotional and behavioral problems, we have to look beyond the person to another powerful element which motivates, influences and causes our behavior.

Psychologists have identified that element by various names: the setting, the situation or the environment, but they all mean the same thing.

I developed the Houle Relationship Approach (HRA) based on the premise that these settings, situations or environments in which we function are actually specific relationships.

And it is within these relationships that our social, emotional and behavioral problems occur.

Consider just three examples of specific relationships:

  • Marriage problems occur in the context of the intimate-marital relationship
  • Problems of employment occur within the context of the work relationship
  • Personal (emotional) problems happen in and around the relationship we have with ourselves

Now, here's the key.

Each of the specific relationships has certain guidelines or rules.

When we believe someone has violated these rules,  that's when social, emotional and/or behavioral problems occur.

Corrections for these problems must address the specific rule(s) that someone has violated within the relationship.

And here's your invitation...

I invite you to join me as we examine the variety of people problems that operate in specific relationships.

We'll discover the demands these relationships impose on the people interacting within them and develop suggestions for solving the problems they create.

Thanks for reading.