Relationships Matter More Than We May Think
For years my fellow psychologists have been telling us that, in order to help a person with social, emotional and behavioral problems, we have to look beyond the person to another powerful element which motivates, influences and causes our behavior.
Psychologists have identified that element by various names: the setting, the situation, the environment.
I developed The Houle Relationship Approach (HRA) based on the premise that this setting, situation or environment is actually a specific relationship.
Consider just a few examples of specific relationships:
- Marriage problems occur in the context of the intimate relationship
- Childhood problems happen in the context of the parent-child or student-teacher relationship
- Problems of employment occur within the context of the work relationship
- Personal problems happen within our relationship with ourselves
Now, here's the key.
Each of us has certain guidelines or rules we see as governing our specific relationships.
When we believe someone in the relationship has violated these guidelines or rules, problems develop.
Corrections for these problems must address the specific rule(s) that are violated within the relationship in which the problem happens. (Check out this post for more about these guidelines/rules)
And here's your invitation...
I invite you to join me as we examine the variety of people-problems that operate in specific relationships.
We'll discover the demands these relationships impose on the people interacting within them and develop suggestions for solving the problems they create.
Thanks for reading.